5)Be wise in the way you act toward those who are outside [the Christian faith]. Make the most of your opportunities. 6) Everything you say should be kind and well thought out so that you know how to answer everyone.
I once had a very dear mentor in the Christian faith who told me of a time when she was in prayer and saw a vision of herself and Jesus. She said that He had taken her to the edge of a great pit to view it from above. This pit was hell, but instead of the absolute darkness she was able to see all those there.
As she stood there and looked, Jesus said that those people over there were here (in hell) because of what Christians did not do. Then He motioned and said that these people there were here because of what Christians did do.
That was a sobering thought and one that I have carried with me for 30 years. Christians sociably can be quite proud and arrogant that they have found ‘the way the truth and the light’. They are so ecstatically happy because of the love of Christ in their lives that they often fail to see that their words become condemning and condescending to others. And this is not love.